... (“like gangbusters,” as she likes to say), I’ve been a creative, intuitive, ‘highly-sensitive’ type who inevitably blundered her way down unbeaten, non-linear (often incomprehensible) paths… while unfortunately, judging myself all the while.
Again and again, I’ve found myself flying in the face of personal, cultural, even “spiritual” conditioning. I have moved from one country to another, and have gone ‘back to school’ so many times I can’t even count — each time, shaking up the entire foundation and identity that came with the first education and resulting career.
Like many of us Westerners, I was raised to believe that I needed to know (up in my head) who I was, where I was going, why I was going there, and how I planned to get there. I thought it a ‘human prerequisite’ to find a service or professional identity that could be intelligibly talked about at dinner parties. (A prerequisite I never managed to fulfill.) So I can say with great sincerity that I really do know something about the pain and the gifts that accompany the unbeaten path.
I also know what a bright yet deeply conditioned mind can do to a person who isn’t meant for the cookie-cutting business, who is simply trying to find her own way in life.
Like so many young girls, I also learned at a very early age that to be a good girl, a good daughter, sister, friend… to be a ‘safely successful woman’, I had to sacrifice my needs and hold back my power so that others could get their needs met, and ultimately shine.
So you could say I spent the majority of my childhood and early adulthood twisting myself into pretzels — trying to be impressively focused, creative and successful… endlessly supportive, giving and selfless… WHILE swallowing my feelings, hiding my gifts and avoiding competition at all costs.
My ability to empathize and help others, to intuitively tune into the needs and desires of the WE (whether the WE was my family, friends, community, organization or institution I was a part of, or the whole world) became both a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, these abilities reflected my deepest core (not just belief but) KNOWING that we are truly all connected, and that when we meet the needs of others, we’re ultimately meeting our own needs. Because in the end, there’s no difference. We’re all ONE.
And on the other hand, my We-orientation became one of my main life challenges — a protective shield, survival strategy and wound-based identity all wrapped up in one. It kept me burying my own needs and feelings, perceiving my boundaries as dangerous, and either giving in to outer pressures and ignoring my self-preserving & non-linear instincts, or following my unique-self-celebrating & non-cookie-cutter instincts… and feeling like a failure.
Makes me realize how much I owe my sanity (and BLOSSOMING!) to two things:
When I think about it, it was probably through engaging in the CREATIVE PROCESS-- in just about every possible way — that my unique life path was rescued. Years of puddling around in paints, making silly sounds, and flipping words like pancakes, helped me become as resilient, pliable, adaptive, persistent and faith-filled as I am today.
It’s through CREATIVITY that I learned how to feel comfortable in the unknown. That I learned how to feel comfortable ENOUGH not-knowing-where-I-was-going that I could actually hang in there through the unstable juicy process called LIFE, without giving up or giving into the pressures and expectations mounting inside and all around me, pushing me to get my act together and become an Impressive Success and/or Pleaser Machine.
It was also through the CREATIVE process that I came to know myself, that I was allowed to explore my inner world. Not just explore, but to get totally absorbed in that world. I remember disappearing into a painting or a dance or a writing journal. And for those precious minutes or hours, sometimes even days, the needs and wishes of other people delightfully wafted into the background. For a We-oriented girl and woman, there was no greater medicine.
While the creative process preserved my spirit, I’d have to say that it was an enthusiastic encounter with HUMAN DESIGN that grounded — and ultimately allowed me to fully embrace — my authentic life.
One of the biggest gifts I received from my work with Human Design is that it helped me learn how to put something ELSE in charge of my life than my mind. So now, even though my mind isn’t at the helm anymore, SOMETHING IS… There is something I can turn to when I feel completely flooded, overwhelmed and overstimulated. There is an authority inside of me, a TRUTH compass, that is consistent and reliable and oh-so-helpful.
Another thing I’ve come to love about Human Design is how it is designed to evolve, just as we are. As this system takes root and branches out around the globe, it is blossoming into a solid field of study as well as a profound mystical exploration. Because of my blended background, alchemical tendencies and continued explorations, I’ve come to hold Human Design in ever-more relaxing & mystical ways. I also have come to appreciate the extremely practical and supportive role it can play when navigating a spiritual journey with other human beings."
One of my deepest intentions is to form a bridge between traditional Human Design and some of the beautiful transpersonal work being doneby Richard Rudd (through The Gene Keys) and Werner and Laura Pitzal (through Integral Human Design).
A Bit More About Rosy's Background
After studying psychology and social change in Ann Arbor during the late 80’s, Rosy trained and worked as a visual artist, breathworker and transpersonal arts therapist in Europe, where she co-founded the Copenhagen Center for Water Rebirthing and led creativity and women’s empowerment workshops. Since returning to the States, Rosy has helped counselors, moms, artists and entrepreneurs find authentic and empowering ways to honor their big hearts, embrace their unique gifts and synthesize their eclectic visions — without getting lost in doubt, self-sacrifice and conditioning paralysis.
Rosy Aronson has a Masters in Expressive Arts therapy and a Doctorate in Intuitive Listening & the Creative Arts. She is a registered Drama Therapist, an ordained (non-denominational) minister, as well as an experienced Human Design and Gene Keys counselor. Rosy has worked as an artist, ritual crafter and creativity event facilitator for groups and organizations. She is also the author and illustrator of A Tale of Serendipity-- an unfolding tale for the open-hearted child in each of us, and a call for global change that is driven by love and not politics.
Disclaimer: Rosy is an ordained minister of Designed to Blossom of AIWP and provide something more akin to spiritual counseling than psychotherapy. The work I do is with highly functional people, for whom ‘spirit’ plays a central role in their life. I do not give diagnoses, work with pathology, or claim to be an expert offering a treatment or cure.